Divorce is one of the most stressful, disruptive, and difficult experiences a person can experience.
Even the most straightforward, amicable divorce is likely to cause a great amount of upheaval in your personal life, not to mention the legal, financial, and practical upsets that go along with it.
At Separate Simply, individuals and couples undergoing a divorce can meet with a trained mediator to receive divorce coaching to help them work through this difficult period with respect, grace, and as little tension as possible.
What Is Divorce Mediation?
Divorce mediation is a form of relationship therapy that is focused on helping couples who have decided to separate.
You may have already been undergoing marriage mediation with your partner and, after giving it your all, decided that the best thing to do for both of you is divorce - an obviously difficult, often devastating decision.
The good news is that you’re not going to be left unsupported - you can also receive mediation and therapy both before, during, and after your divorce proceedings.
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Do I Need Divorce Mediation?
It can be tempting to think that, while the divorce is usually horrible, you and your partner will be able to navigate it amicably and respectfully. This time, you might think, we’ll do it right.
The truth of the matter is, though, that dissolving a marriage or a long-term partnership is painful and difficult, no matter how good your intentions are. Some signs that you might need to seek psychological help include:
- Trouble falling asleep or staying asleep (without a previous history of insomnia)
- Self-loathing or shame
- Feeling unworthy or incapable of love
- Sudden and dramatic weight changes
- Withdrawing from your friends and loved ones
- Loss of interest in things you used to enjoy
- Extreme emotions that you find difficult to regulate appropriately
- Chronic depression
- Thoughts of suicide or self-harm
- Anxiety or excessive worry
Pre-Divorce Mediation
In pre-divorce, mediation helps separated partners communicate effectively and civilly during their divorce.
Pre-divorce mediation can be especially beneficial if there are children involved, as both parents can work through parenting plans and potential points of tension with their mediator, limiting the amount of stress and disruption experienced by their children.
Pre-divorce mediation can also help you work through any difficult, confusing, or otherwise upsetting emotions that may arise during the divorce proceedings. This is an emotionally difficult time, it is understandable that you may need a little more emotional support to get by!
Post-Divorce Mediation
Post-divorce mediation can help you work through the lingering issues and emotions caused by your divorce. After separating from a long-term partner, many people experience feelings of:
- Shame
- Low self-esteem
- Low self-confidence
- Sadness
- Worthlessness
A divorce mediator can help rebuild your self-confidence and sense of self.
Divorce mediation can also help you work through any residual feelings towards your ex (positive or negative) in a healthy, productive way.
What Can Divorce Mediation Do For Me?
To go through a divorce is to experience a kind of grief, and you should treat yourself like you’re in mourning. You are mourning a relationship that you had staked the rest of your life on, and now that it’s gone it can be difficult to know where to go from here.
A divorce therapist can help you work through these feelings of grief and loss in a healthy, effective way. Some of the ways divorce coaching can do this are by:
- Helping you work through the stages of divorce (Anger, Bargaining, Guilt, Depression, Acceptance)
- Teach you emotional coping skills to manage the pain of divorce
- Provide relationship coaching
- Help the entire family understand and accept the divorce
If you feel like you and your family could benefit from divorce mediation, reach out to Separate Simply today to find out what services might be right for you.
